Where did you get your relationship to love? Was it watching healthy people love and care for each other? Was it being present when loving communication was practiced? Was it seeing two people be responsible for their experience of themselves and another person and relating from there? Was it listening to people being in a relationship from a place of honor and integrity and modeling that for you? Was it observing a relationship in breakdown and reaction and then feeling what it is like to come back to being in a full, whole, safe and sane relationship?